Friday, March 1, 2013

Data, A Love Story: How I Gamed Online Dating to Meet My Match by Amy Webb

Data, A Love Story: How I Gamed Online Dating to Meet My MatchData, A Love Story: How I Gamed Online Dating to Meet My Match by Amy Webb
My rating: 3 of 5 stars

Goodreads: Forty million people date online each year. Most don’t find true love. Thanks to Data, a Love Story, their odds just got a whole lot better. 

Data, A Love Story: How I Gamed Online Dating to Meet My Match is a lively, thought-provoking memoir about how one woman “gamed” the world of online dating—and met her eventual husband.

My thoughts: It's really not a love story until the end. Ooops. I just ruined the ending. It's really the story of the author's transformation to fit herself into the online dating services while maintaining her sense of self and defining her mate's traits. I know that sounds boring but it really isn't. It starts out with a perfect relationship which turns out to not be so perfect and ends in heartbreak.

So Amy is 30, single, and wanting to be married and carry on the other part of her life plan. So she joined a few online dating sites and the calamities began. I laughed and laughed. I also recalled the bad dates I went on when I was single. Although I was married by the time online dating services became vogue, I think that the author and I came to a similar conclusion. In order to marry the man I want, I need to be the kind of person I would want to marry.

So how do you portray the person you are (which is magnificent) into a little blurb on a dating site? You want to capture interest and weed out those who don't have the educational prerequisite along with the hair or not hair, intellectual and snarky personality? That is where the author becomes a genius. After she takes a shower and sleeps off her hangover, I mean.

She clears out her cache and creates different men profiles to see how the successful women are doing it. She takes copious notes and categorizes successes and failures. She also writes a 72 point checklist of traits she is looking for in a man and attaches points based on importance and develops a baseline. After a month or two and with binders and color coded papers in hand, she begins her own overhaul while meticulously writing her own description using key words that are honest yet not too much information. She includes photos that are staged but are carefully researched and the weeding out begins.

It's a good book. Fun to read. Beware of the "F" bombs. She's got a potty mouth. She's a bit on the wordy side but has a good editor. She's a fun writer and has written an honest and real book.

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1 comment:

Kim said...

I saw her interview on The View. She was kinda flaky and was all focused on her matrices and algorithms.

I hope the book is more cohesive than her live performance.